We create our own luck when preparation meets opportunity
People who make their own fortune tend to:
- Create, spot and seize opportunities
- Always seek new experiences and new friends
- Have high self-esteem and good social skills
- Be extroverted, open-minded, optimistic and courageous
- Be less anxious and have less depressed thoughts
The belief that you have the power or capacity to produce a desired effect is called self-efficacy. Sometimes our minds tell us that we are not experienced enough to get the job we want, or not attractive enough to talk to the beautiful girl in the bar. But, do not think that you cannot do something unless you factually or logically cannot do it.
You should create and maintain a large network of friends and acquaintances. Learn how to strike up a conversation with anyone, and then seize every opportunity to talk to people. For example, talk to strangers on the bus. Initiate a conversation only with people who look friendly and approachable. Also, try to make contact with people you haven't been in touch with for a while.
Open-minded people see opportunities where close-minded people do not, and thus they get more chances to seize opportunities that may bring them good fortune. An open-minded person heads to the park thinking he might encounter a potential new friend. A closed person sees only dog owners and joggers.
Do not classify people and situations in advance, but wait until you know what's in front of you. Rid yourself of prejudices. Make a list of things that you have never done before but wouldn't mind trying, and then do them.
If an opportunity arise, instead of giving in to anxiety and worry about what could go wrong, be courageous and willing to take some risks. If you are unsure about a decision, try to figure out:
1. what's the worst that can happen
2. what's the likelihood of that outcome
3. what action you will regret most in the future
4. and, what are the potential long-term benefits
Richard Wiseman - "The Luck Factor"