Monday, March 28, 2011

Coping with Ingratitude


Did you ever go out of your way to do a favor for someone only to have the person respond to your efforts with indifference or nastiness? People shouldn’t be so unappreciative, right? If you tell yourself this, you will probably stew for days as you mull the incident over and over. The more inflammatory your thoughts and fantasies become, the more disturbed and angry you will feel (Burns, 1999, p. 416)


If I do a good deed for another person, s/he is duty-bound to feel grateful and express that gratitude to me, right? No. Wrong. This assumption is unrealistic, unreasonable, and causes me to be upset needlessly.

It would be nice if everyone always expressed their gratitude when due, but no one has a moral or legal obligation to credit me for my good efforts and good deeds. Therefore, it is unreasonable for me to expect it or demand it.

A realistic attitude would be that: If I do a good deed for another person, s/he might be grateful, and may thank me, or praise me, or reward me. But every now and then, someone will not respond in this way. And, if their response is unreasonable, that is a reflection of their character, not mine. So, I should not get upset.


Reference:
David D. Burns – Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

The Aurora Borealis or Northern Lights


An aurora (plural: auroras or aurorae) is a natural light display in the sky, particularly in the polar regions, caused by the collision of charged particles directed by the Earth's magnetic field. An aurora is usually observed at night and typically occurs in the ionosphere. It is also referred to as a polar aurora or, collectively, as polar lights. These phenomena are commonly visible between 60 and 72 degrees north and south latitudes, which place them in a ring just within the Arctic and Antarctic polar circles. In northern latitudes, the effect is known as the aurora borealis (or the northern lights).

The Aurora from Terje Sorgjerd on Vimeo.


Music: Chris Medina - What Are Words





Anywhere you are, I am near
Anywhere you go, I'll be there
Anytime you whisper my name, you'll see
How every single promise I keep
Cuz what kind of guy would I be
If I was to leave when you need me most

What are words if you really don't mean them when you say them
What are words if they're only for good times then they're done
When it's love, yeah, you say them out loud those words, they never go away
They live on...even when we're gone

And I know an angel was sent just for me
And I know I'm meant to be where I am
And I'm gonna be
standing right beside her tonight
And I'm gonna be by your side
I would never leave when she needs me most

What are words if you really don't mean them when you say them
What are words if they're only for good times then they're done
When it's love, yeah, you say them out loud those words, they never go away
They live on...even when we're gone

Anywhere you are, I am near
Anywhere you go, I'll be there
And I'm gonna be here forever more
Every single promise I keep
Cuz what kind of guy would I be
If I was to leave when you need me most

I'm forever keeping my angel close

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

New Scientist Tv: The Meaning of Dreaming



Thought Question: Heal the World







Thought Question: Gratitude


Do you have something to complain about? Or, perhaps something to be grateful for?











“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful.” - Buddha


“Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” – Margaret Cousins


What I am Grateful for:

Goodness – people moved by compassion to aid fellow human beings, making the world brighter.

Family – the unconditional love they give me.

Friends – gives my life more meaning.

Health – both in body and mind.

Wisdom – the great ideas of great minds.

Beauty – children's laughter, the sun, music, and so forth.

Country – to live in one of the best countries in the world.












"As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them." - John F. Kennedy


If you feel a little blue, think about all the good things in your life. There are many things in your life for which to be grateful. So, what are you grateful for?

Thought Question: Inspiration




Thought Question: Remembered For?


What do you want to be known for?



Thought Question: Security




Thought Question: Change the Past?




Thought Question: Undesirable Traits




Thought Question: Self-Esteem




Monday, March 14, 2011

Thought Question: Never Give Up




Pictures that Changed the World



Fornuftige Tjenester Annonse




Thought Question: Just War




Thought Question: Want Most of All




Thought Question: One Question to One Person




Thought Question: What Money Cannot Buy




Thought Question: Altruism







Thought Question: Hold On or Let Go?


Are you holding onto something that you need to let go of?



Thought Question: Trust




Thought Question: Feeling Better




Thought Question: Advise Younger Self




Thought Question: Your Own Enemy?




Thought Question: Perfectionism




Test Your Suggestibility



TED Talks: David Brooks - The social animal



Quiz Show: Hitler, the Atheist



Thought Question: The Dream-Partner




Thought Question: Human Beauty




Thought Question: The Message




Thought Question: Speak Up


"I don't fear death, I fear remaining silent in the face of injustice." - Malalai Joya



Thought Question: Heroism




Thought Question: Regret Not Doing Something


The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone. “She never knew how I loved her.” “He never knew what he was to me.” “I always meant to make more of our friendship.” “I did not know what he was to me till he was gone.” - Harriet Beecher Stowe




Thought Question: Learn from Mistakes




Thought Question: Good Leader




Thought Question: Whom to Serve?




Thought Question: Accomplishment




Thought Question: Be Someone Else?




Thought Question: Good from Suffering?




Thought Question: True Love




Thought Question: Indoctrination




Thought Question: Genious or Joyous




Thought Question: Success




Thought Question: Determinism



Thought Question: Love, Never or Lost



Thought Question: Evil Heart



Thought Question: Failing or Never Trying




Thought Question: Prejudice



Thought Question: If Nobody Judged You



Thought Question: Admirable Celebrities



Thought Question: Most Important Book?